I will begin with a story to illustrate my point. I call and talk to my mom 1-2 times a week. Now, every now and then my dad answers the phone. It is usually (like almost always) when my mother is not home. We chat for awhile when I call and each time we get a chance to talk I can tell by our conversations that my mom has filled him in on what has been going on in our lives. I feel connected with him because my mom has helped to keep us connected.
I have noticed this is how it works with Steve and I. What I do and say keeps him connected with the kids. He works during the day and I get to stay home with the kids. I personally see this as an enormous blessing, to be able to be with my kids each and everyday is something I'm so grateful for. I'm the one that gets to see them, hear them, watch them, and connect with them all day long. I'm the one that can read their tired ques and know when they are grumpy because they just need something to eat. I'm the one who overhears their conversations, who watches for patterns in their behavior, who practices different parenting techniques to see what works the best for that particular child. I'm the one who talks to the parents of their friends, to their coaches, to their teachers. Even if we both worked and spent the same amount of time with the kids, I still feel like I would bring a special insight to the table. I see things that he doesn't.
Isn't it fascinating the influence we have in the lives of our families! We have it because of the sacrifice, the time, the effort we put into it. We see and learn so much because we sacrifice and love so much! And our influence is great. Not only are we helping our spouse, we are helping our children. What a blessing in their lives to have a strong relationship with their father. I love knowing that I can be that connection between my kids and their father.
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